Its bullshit to think of friendship and romance as being different. Theyre not. Theyre just variations of the same love. Variations of the same desire to be close.
In real life love has to be possible. Even if it is not returned right away love can only survive when the hope exists that you will be able to win over the person you desire.
In desperate love we always invent the characters of our partners demanding they be what we need of them and then feeling devastated when they refuse to perform the role we created in the first place.