To love another another human in all of her splendor and imperfect perfection it is a magnificent task...tremendous and foolish and human.

Life will break you. Nobody can protect you from that and living alone wont either for solitude will also break you with its yearning. You have to love. You have to feel. It is the reason you are here on earth. You are here to risk your heart. You are here to be swallowed up. And when it happens that you are broken or betrayed or left or hurt or death brushes near let yourself sit by an apple tree and listen to the apples falling all around you in heaps wasting their sweetness. Tell yourself you tasted as many as you could.

One of Tobasonakwuts favorite phrases is andopawatchigan which means seek your dream but is lots more complicated. It means that first you have to find and identify your dream often through fasting and then that you also must carry out exactly what your dream tells you to do in each detail. And then the philosophy comes in for by doing this repeatedly you will gradually come into a balanced relationship with all of life.