Marriage isnt a love affair. It isnt even a honeymoon. Its a job. A long hard job at which both partners have to work harder than theyve worked at anything in their lives before. If its a good marriage it changes it evolves but it does on getting better. Ive seen it with my own mother and father. But a bad marriage can dissolve in a welter of resentment and acrimony. Ive seen that too in my own miserable and disastrous attempt at making another person happy. And its never one persons fault. Its the sum total of a thousand little irritations disagreements idiotic details that in a sound alliance would simply be disregarded or forgotten in the healing act of making love. Divorce isnt a cure its a surgical operation even if there are no children to consider.

I have come to the conclusion never again to think of marrying and for this reason I can never be satisfied with anyone who would be blockhead enough to have me.

When you find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot who calls you back when you hang up on him who will stand in front of you when others cast stones or will stay awake just to watch you sleep who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats who will hold your hand when your sick who thinks your pretty without makeup the one who turns to his friends and say thats her the one that would bear your rejection because losing you means losing his will to live who kisses you when you screw up watches the stars and names one for you and will hold and rock that baby for hours so you can sleep..you marry him all over again.

Love is giving up control. Its surrendering the desire to control the other person. The twolove and controlling power over the other personare mutually exclusive. If we are serious about loving someone we have to surrender all the desires within us to manipulate the relationship.

One can be very much in love with a woman without wishing to spend the rest of ones life with her.

What a man wants is a mate and what a woman wants is infinite security and What a man is is an arrow into the future and a what a woman is is the place the arrow shoots off from.

Were taught that in life we should try to look on the bright side. Not in this case. In this case assume rejection first. Assume youre the rule not the exception. Its liberating. But we also know its not an easy concept. -Hes not just into you

Ive never been the one. Not for anybody.He closed the distance between them. Youll get used to it. He tipped her face up to his kissed her.Why Why am I the oneBecause my life opened up and it flooded with color when you walked back into it.

So he called to her back Just out of curiosity you know purely conversation and all at what age will you be entertaining offers of marriageYou think itll be so easy she called back over her shoulder. No way. There will be tasks. Like in a fairy tale.Sounds dangerous.Very so think twice.No need he said. Youre worth it.

I know what it is to live entirely for and with what I love best on earth. I hold myself supremely blest -- blest beyond what language can express because I am my husbands life as fully as he is mine.