Usually adult males who are unable to make emotional connections with the women they choose to be intimate with are frozen in time unable to allow themselves to love for fear that the loved one will abandon them. If the first woman they passionately loved the mother was not true to her bond of love then how can they trust that their partner will be true to love. Often in their adult relationships these men act out again and again to test their partners love. While the rejected adolescent boy imagines that he can no longer receive his mothers love because he is not worthy as a grown man he may act out in ways that are unworthy and yet demand of the woman in his life that she offer him unconditional love. This testing does not heal the wound of the past it merely reenacts it for ultimately the woman will become weary of being tested and end the relationship thus reenacting the abandonment. This drama confirms for many men that they cannot put their trust in love. They decide that it is better to put their faith in being powerful in being dominant.

People like to say love is unconditional but its not and even if it was unconditional its still never free. Theres always an expectation attached. They always want something in return. Like they want you to be happy or whatever and that makes you automatically responsible for their happiness because they wont be happy unless you are ... I just dont want that responsibility.

Holding Eleanors hand was like holding a butterfly. Or a heartbeat. Like holding something complete and completely alive.

Therefore dear Sir love your solitude and try to sing out with the pain it causes you. For those who are near you are far away... and this shows that the space around you is beginning to grow vast.... be happy about your growth in which of course you cant take anyone with you and be gentle with those who stay behind be confident and calm in front of them and dont torment them with your doubts and dont frighten them with your faith or joy which they wouldnt be able to comprehend. Seek out some simple and true feeling of what you have in common with them which doesnt necessarily have to alter when you yourself change again and again when you see them love life in a form that is not your own and be indulgent toward those who are growing old who are afraid of the aloneness that you trust.... and dont expect any understanding but believe in a love that is being stored up for you like an inheritance and have faith that in this love there is a strength and a blessing so large that you can travel as far as you wish without having to step outside it.

To be fully seen by somebody then and be loved anyhow - this is a human offering that can border on miraculous.

The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much and forgetting that you are special too.

Come sleep with me We wont make LoveLove will make us.

Ive been fighting to be who I am all my life. Whats the point of being who I am if I cant have the person who was worth all the fighting for

If conversation was the lyrics laughter was the music making time spent together a melody that could be replayed over and over without getting stale.

For the two of us home isnt a place. It is a person. And we are finally home.