Its a strange thing to discover and to believe that you are loved when you know that there is nothing in you for anybody but a parent or a God to love.

Well its true that I have been hurt in my life. Quite a bit. But its also true that I have loved and been loved. and that carries a weight of its own. A greater weight in my opinion. Its like that pie chart we talked about earlier. in the end Ill look back on my life and see that the greatest piece of it was love. The problems the divorces the sadness... those will be there too but just smaller slivers tiny pieces.

Real isnt how you are made said the Skin Horse. Its a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long long time not just to play with but REALLY loves you then you become Real.Does it hurt asked the Rabbit. Sometimes said the Skin Horse for he was always truthful. When you are Real you dont mind being hurt. Does it happen all at once like being wound up he asked or bit by bit It doesnt happen all at once said the Skin Horse. You become. It takes a long time. Thats why it doesnt happen often to people who break easily or have sharp edges or who have to be carefully kept. Generally by the time you are Real most of your hair has been loved off and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things dont matter at all because once you are Real you cant be ugly except to people who dont understand.

Hes not your prince charming if he doesnt make sure you know that youre his princess.

My great hope is to laugh as much as I cry to get my work done and try to love somebody and have the courage to accept the love in return.

To be fully seen by somebody then and be loved anyhow - this is a human offering that can border on miraculous.

I want to be in a relationship where you telling me you love me is just a ceremonious validation of what you already show me.

Were all seeking that special person who is right for us. But if youve been through enough relationships you begin to suspect theres no right person just different flavors of wrong. Why is this Because you yourself are wrong in some way and you seek out partners who are wrong in some complementary way. But it takes a lot of living to grow fully into your own wrongness. And it isnt until you finally run up against your deepest demons your unsolvable problemsthe ones that make you truly who you arethat were ready to find a lifelong mate. Only then do you finally know what youre looking for. Youre looking for the wrong person. But not just any wrong person the right wrong personsomeone you lovingly gaze upon and think This is the problem I want to have.I will find that special person who is wrong for me in just the right way.Let our scars fall in love.