And speaking of options these kids the ones who attend elite universities have all been told that theirs are limitless. Once you commit to something though that ceases to be true. A former student sent me an essay he wrote a few years after college called The Paradox of Potential. Yale students he said are like stem cells. They can be anything in the world so they try to delay for as long as possible the moment when they have to become just one thing in particular. Possibility paradoxically becomes limitation.